When I picked up The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian I expected to be reading a book that exclusively taught me how to pray for my husband. And it did…but in so many ways that I never before considered.
The book turned out to be deeper than teaching me how to pray for Jared. The first chapter in the book is titled His Wife. “Praying for a husband must begin with praying for his wife.” Stormie explains that when you pray for your husband, you must have a pure heart, free of resentment, unforgiveness, or ulterior motives. In order to do that, you need to pray and beg God that you will have those right motives…you need to pray for your husband’s wife. That’s me.
I think we’ve all prayed that our hubbies would change something at some point. On the surface, that’s really not a bad thing. The question we must ask ourselves is, “Why, am I praying this?” Am I praying because I want things to be better for me, or with Jared’s best interest in mind?
Um. Conviction! Woven throughout the chapters was the underlying principle of the need to be selfless, loving, and generous in your prayers for your husband. To pray with his best interest, not yours, in mind.
Another thing that stuck out to me in the book was the need to pray for your husband BEFORE you talk about something difficult with him. Our hubby’s aren’t perfect (though mine might be pretty close 😉 ), and there are times that we will need to lovingly discuss a difficult problem or situation. In my bull-headedness, I like to rush into those conversations, but this book challenged me to pray first. Pray that my own heart is right. (Because, often I’m the one with the problem, and not him!) Pray that God would point out those areas to hubby. Pray and ask if I should even talk to hubby about whatever situation. And then wait…don’t speak quite yet, but continue praying! If I do feel led to speak…finally pray that God would prepare His heart and guide my words. Stormie points out that praying before these conversations often makes the conversations completely unneccessary. However, if they do remain necessary, the conversation and situation will go so much better with God’s help! And, isn’t that how we are supposed to do everything in life anyway?
The majority of the book was composed of short chapters brimming with specific matters of prayer regarding our husbands: His Purpose, His Mind, His Reputation, His Priorities, His Past, His Marriage, His Finances, and many more! The end of each chapter included a prayer full of applicable Scripture verses to pray. I’ve never been big on pre-written prayers, but it was a blessing to me to read through the Biblical prayers and pray them to God specifically for Jared. I was also challenged to include more Scripture in all of my personal, daily prayers.
The Power of a Praying Wife was a beneficial read that was a help to my prayers for Jared, myself, and our marriage. I appreciated Stormie’s heartfelt writing and transparency as she taught Biblical models and principles for prayer.